Happiness is "To love someone or to be loved by someone"???
是爱人幸福，还是被爱幸福？
Everyone loved to be love! Especially for girls, they will feel happier having to be loved than to love. For guys, maybe the same but they are more "daring" to pursue their love than "submit" to someone who love them!
In a relationship, the best way is both of them love each other as much!!! But what if this is not possible in their relationship, one person love more than the other? Then is it that the girl will prefer to be loved to feel happiness? B'coz her bf/hubby will shower all his love for her & she knew that he will never cheat or betray her? Is that better than loving someone which maybe more tiring & hurtful?
To love someone, is it more tiring? B'coz we need to spend more time & effort (心思) on the person we love? We spend time missing the person, spend time thinking what he/she like, spend time thinking how can we understand him/her more or what can we do to make him/her love us more? We need to worry if they will betray us, which is more hurtful in a way if this really happened. Do we stayed or leave?
Being loved? Taking the love for granted since someone is loving him/her wholeheartedly? Is this what most people is doing when they are in a "being loved" position? We did it unknowingly, not realising what we are doing is hurting our partner, till one day he/she say they cannot continue to live with us anymore & walked out of our life! Then we REALISED but it's all too late!
Give and take is important in a relationship. We must learn how to balance this, or else will it will become an unhealthy relationship. Things will start to sour when time is long. Giving party will feel tired & taking party will continue to take for granted!
It's hard to maintain a good & healthy relationship! Keep it up & do your best!!! :)
Happiness = CAN love & be loved!
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